Affirmations, as a verbal formulation of the thoughts, are one of the strongest weapons that you can use to affirm a certain state or a feeling that you want to attract.
Affirming something means that you consider it to be true, so in the context of manifesting, affirmations help you bring your mind in the same tune with your wishes, letting it know that, as far as you’re concerned, what you’re saying is true, and that all it takes now for it to become present in your life is some time for the universe to deliver.
Positive affirmations really do work – but many people complain that they’ve tried them, and saw no results. Well, that’s just it – they’ve tried them. Affirmations have gained a pretty great reputation over the last couple decades, and people expect them to work miracles for them just as they did for that guru they saw, or for their friend who uses them – so many don’t bother to investigate how to properly use the affirmations. They believe that it’s just a matter of repeating some phrases, and waiting for a miracle to come.
Now, if you bought a new washing machine, you’d read the instruction manual first. That’s what you do with everything that you’re trying for the first time. Affirmations are no different.
So let’s now see what these people did wrong, and what you should pay attention to if you’re planning to use this tool for manifesting.
1. Not Fixing Your Negative Thinking Patterns First
Affirming something to be true can only be effective if you believe/know it is. “I am a human.” OK, you know that, there’s no trouble with saying that out loud and believing in it. But “I am a positive person who deserves everything good in life”, or how about: “I am attracting my soul mate and he is on his way to me”?
The latter two are tricky for someone who has an issue with low self-esteem. Our subconscious mind is a vast storage of all of our experiences, thoughts and beliefs, and it remembers the impressions that were placed there long ago, keeping us in the cage of our own making.
For example, if you have grown up believing that nothing that you do is good enough, that you as a person aren’t worthy of anything good or pleasant, including love and wealth, those beliefs are stuck in your subconscious, which has learned over the years of repetition of those thoughts that they’re true.
The trouble is, our subconscious is much, much bigger part of our mind than our conscious – so we have to deal with it first before we start saying affirmations of the things we want to see changed in our lives. Affirming that you’re worthy of love while your subconscious firmly believes otherwise will make it much worse. For it, what you’re saying is an obvious lie, and it will then start whispering in the back of your head: “Oh, now you’re just lying to yourself, you’re so pathetic”.
So you need to fix this first. To learn what they are check our article about releasing negative beliefs, and we have another article that explains how to approach fixing negative thinking patterns in your subconscious.
2. Not Knowing Exactly What You Want
Affirmations are statements about your future goals, and if you aren’t quite sure what those goals are, you can’t point your affirmations in the right direction.
This may sound strange, but many people, for a whole host of reasons, have trouble defining what they truly want. This is usually the result of spending their entire life living with less than they deserve, and learning to moderate their desires. Now, moderation is a quality sometimes, but when it comes to your life, are you positive that you have the right to deny yourself prosperity, abundance and happiness that you’re entitled to?
So, if you’re one of those people, first understand that it’s perfectly OK to ask for everything that you want. And if you don’t know exactly what it is, start with defining the things that you don’t want – the things that you do want will usually be the exact opposite 🙂
3. Not Attaching Positive Emotions to the Affirmations
Even if you’re a newbie manifestor, you should know that what gives the strength and context to your focused thoughts – and words that you use to express them – are your feelings.
Affirmations by themselves are only words. Take the word “table” for example. When you say it, it evokes the mental image of what that word represents – but it’s still only a word, five letters that may or may not represent something for you; for an Italian, this word means nothing, no mental images, no feelings. It’s just a sound, not the object. There’s this Zen Buddhist saying:
Words are like a finger pointing at the moon. They’re not the moon itself.
It’s the same with the affirmations. You can repeat them all day long in front of a mirror, but if you don’t feel what they’re suppose to mean to you – you’ve done nothing, you’ve only wasted one good day. The affirmations should excite you, repeating them should make you more and more thrilled with the idea of having these desires manifest in your life.
If that’s not the case – then maybe you haven’t chosen the affirmations which can do that for you. Take a look at your list of affirmations, and if they don’t excite you, rewrite them or make the new ones to declare what you really want.
Also, you may need to take a moment before you begin stating your affirmations to get in a positive frame of mind – you don’t have to be positive and excited about the affirmations and their meanings, just be generally positive and excited about something, to get yourself in a good mood.
4. Projecting Too Far
This mistake has to do with the mistake No.1.
Affirmations should be in the present tense, structured so that they reflect the change for the better as if it’s already there. So yes, they should aim further than where you currently are (otherwise it’s not much of a change), but not too much further.
For example, if you’re currently single and you want to have a family – the whole package: great husband, three kids and a suburban house with a pool, affirming that you already have all these things will again make you a liar in front of your subconscious (and you don’t want to mess with your subconscious). So instead, start making one step at a time: you first need a husband – but to marry someone, you first have to meet him, right? And you don’t want to marry just any guy, you want someone fantastic.
So you can start with the affirmations that reflect that, for example: “I am attracting a tall rich guy who will make me laugh and who will love me till death do us part.” Your subconscious shouldn’t have a problem with this 😉
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